Comments on: He Said, She Said (Part Two)

By: Gina

Gina — Mon, 25 May 2009 17:38:49 +0000

I love your advice. We are breaking the generational curse on our families and we work hard at fighting for our marriage. It took a while to get here, but at 10 years we know more than some people know their whole lives. We focus on putting God first and our spouse second. Its amazing to know the kind of selfless love God has for us, instead of staying in the worldly, selfish love that is all around us. I can say with certainty we have been blessed for above and beyond what we deserve. I did learn that if I stopped nagging and started praying, certain things got done faster. My husband is an electrician, I am still waiting for the plugs to get changed in our bedroom and plug covers to be put on. But God has done so many amazing spiritual changes on my husband and saved his life in January (he almost died from a strep infection) that I am not complaining! I know way better!

By: designer sydney

designer sydney — Sun, 24 May 2009 22:04:51 +0000

Interesting. thanks for the insights. I will add this to my favourites and come back to check out your updates. very cool

By: Karen

Karen — Sat, 23 May 2009 16:03:44 +0000

This is hysterical. I’ve done every one of the “Don’ts”. But then, so has Chris.

A lesson: If you want it done & really can’t do it yourself, don’t pester. It took me awhile to learn this one. About a year, I think. I came home Thursday (a friend & I had gone to look at picnic spots for after the vow renewal ceremony) to find my kitchen in disaster mode. The disposal was out, the drain was out, but he was installing the instahot I’d finally stopped bugging him about. Being married to a plumber sucks. Mine is ALWAYS last.

Also remember to pick your battles. Sometimes what appears to be a big deal, (like picking up his dirty laundry) given some time, isn’t really. Then you’ve wasted a perfectly good fight. And have to apologize on top of it. Not good with a very dominate man, like mine.

Remember, he likes to be shown, as well as told, that he’s loved. Gives his little ego a lift & makes him feel really good. I remind myself that he’s God’s work in progress, the same as I am. Especially when he’s on my last nerve. That seems to make things easier.

By: I drive my tractor is pearls...

I drive my tractor is pearls... — Sat, 23 May 2009 12:22:58 +0000

I thank God I have his socks to pick up – because I know women who wish they still had socks to pick up – its an attitude adjustment for me and puts me in a thankful place

By: Lynn C.

Lynn C. — Fri, 22 May 2009 17:35:26 +0000

oooppps, nuggets! not nuggests. haha

By: Lynn C.

Lynn C. — Fri, 22 May 2009 17:34:49 +0000

Dusty, I enjoyed yesterday & today’s nuggests. (reminders as a “chance again” to be intentional)
Great job!! It brings hope to hear suggestions, to be reminded not to take your loved ones for granted. I was reminded of that today by you. I try not to forget, probably do an okay job, but always need room to assert myself in the affirmation dept with my husband. A huge Thank you! love you & your heart!

By: Brenda

Brenda — Fri, 22 May 2009 16:36:55 +0000

Wish we had this advise about 27 years ago BUT it will help me with my next one, who ever God has for me! Love ya and oh yeah, I do mean it!

By: Susan

Susan — Fri, 22 May 2009 13:37:09 +0000

You know, Dusty, on a serious note. I know, I know~since you can’t read emotion into this, just trust me. I am serious. You are a great wife..you are a great mommy..you are a great speaker (moved me and my mascara!)..and most importantly, you can deliver His word in the most effective way. I am proud I have known you most of your life and was blessed with watching you grow up (and mature) into such an exemplary person. Ok, seriousness is over..let me return to me! As quoted from a wise one, “Luv ya, mean it!”

By: Wendy Verdon

Wendy Verdon — Fri, 22 May 2009 13:13:59 +0000

You left some good advice about all of it. I agree about the no headache, never done that and like you said, just do it – I will not go further with this one, I could, but I won’t!

I always bombard my husband with things when he walks in – good and bad and he gets immediately on the defensive, he says to give him a few minutes to get in. But, I am thinking, “I have not seen you all day and don’t get to talk to you most of the day, so you should be ready to talk to me.” But, you have made me see that I should wait and let him get in and unwind. Thanks – that is a big help. It certainly sets the mood for the evening. I need to stop taking that personal.

I once read the book “Men Are From Mars, Women Are From Venus” and I think I need to read it again.

thanks once again Dusty!

By: Dusty Takle

Dusty Takle — Fri, 22 May 2009 12:43:44 +0000

I totally forgot this little nugget or three:

When I want Kris to do something for me, I never just tell him to do it or use exasperation in my voice. I simply start with “Babe, do you mind?” Or “Do you think you might have a chance to….”

Even for the simplest of requests like, “Babe, do you mind taking the trash to the curb today?”

Then? I say thank you.

And girls, while we would for love our men to just always know to do the things we want them to, um, they don’t. So, try not to get exhausted with asking them everysokindly to do it. Remember, the pressure on them to provide for their family is much greater than the pressure on us.

With that being said, sometimes, just let things go. And, love on ‘em.