Completely lame to title a blog post after a movie. But, I’m in my 40s now. So, I’m comfortable being lame. I always thought turning 40 would bother me. Because, in my mind, I am always, always 18. Aren’t we all? Sure, we don’t feel 18. But, we are always that 18 year old who still feels like they are navigating through this thing called life. I can still remember as vividly how it felt to be embarking on my college career as much as I can remember how I felt walking my third child into school the first day. Feelings are just so powerful. And, they hard to forget. I can remember walking into Mrs. Howard’s third class at Jackson Road. I can remember how she made me feel secure. I can remember almost drowning in the Gulf and my father never letting go of my hand. I can remember holding onto the OUTSIDE of the escalator of Southlake Mall and riding it up until my mom climbed on top of a brick display, grabbing the soles of my shoes, pulling me back down.
I can remember the first time I felt the presence of God and thinking that I never wanted to leave it.
I can remember graduating from college and looking into the mass of onlookers and seeing the gleam in my grandfather’s eye.
I can remember not being able to stop the tears when John Henry was born and holding him in my arms for the very first time. I remember looking at my mom and saying, “My world is right now.”
I can remember being heartbroken. But more than the heartbreak, I can remember my friends taking care of me and being there.
I can remember opening my heart up to love again. I can remember kissing Kris Takle on his brother’s sofa for the first time. I can remember my mom’s tearful face when we loaded up in a King Air and moved to Oklahoma City.
I can remember when Anna Takle was three years old, and I realized that I had to start recording how fun she made my life.
I can remember deciding to have a third child after swearing two was enough. But, then, looking at that future super-hero in the face with gratitude and thanksgiving that he was mine.
I can remember Kris telling me, “I think we can do this,” when he told me we were moving back home to Georgia.
I can remember fully surrendering my life to the ministry and my father ordaining me a pastor.
I can recall exactly how those moments felt. And, I am so thankful for them all. For the good moments. For the bad. The good have taught me gratitude. The bad have taught me forgiveness and love.
I’m no expert in life. I have many more miles to travel and hopefully many more candles to extinguish. But, I have penned 40 things that I have learned so far. Perhaps, next year I will have a different view. A different outlook. A different perception of life. I hope I do. Because, that means I’m evolving. But, today, this is 40:
1. Don’t put too much weight into a present emotion. Because, you never know how you’re going to feel tomorrow.
2. You don’t have to talk through every single feeling, emotion, or issue.
3. Friendship in marriage is just as important as love.
4. Having a third kid is a game-changer. Don’t do it unless you’re willing to change the game.
5. I like our new game with three kids….now that I’ve regained my sanity. Somewhat.
6. My blood pressure rises when I read status updates or comments that portray a God who is ready to take out His vengeance on people. Or when people read the Word but don’t get the Spirit behind what’s being said. God is a God of love. Period.
7. I need to not let myself get so worked up over #6.
8. God is not up there, out there somewhere. He is within me.
9. My mom is the person I can tell anything to.
10. I don’t always have to be right. And, my way isn’t the only way. In parenting, in life. We all have the same mission but different methods. We have to work through our own salvation.
11. It’s okay to simply say, “that’s not going to work for me” without giving further explanation.
12. If I don’t schedule my time, someone else will. Create margin with your time.
13. Gratitude, thankfulness, appreciation, and praise are the keys to EVERYTHING.
14. Pain doesn’t last.
15. Being skinny is fun. But not as fun as a really good meal.
16. Whatever I focus on will expand – whether positive or negative.
17. Kris and I travel really well together. He is my favorite travel partner.
18. It’s important to jump into your kids’ passions and be amazed with them.
19. Never, ever give up on people.
20. Even when you become frustrated with where someone is in his or her life, don’t stop being their friend. They will get through that rough place. Love them through it instead of pulling back.
21. When you know you’re wrong, own it.
22. Say thank you as often as possible.
23. Chill when life gets interrupted. Accept it. It happens.
24. Dreading makes everything worse. Don’t dread what you know you already have to do.
25. If you see a need, and it’s within your means to meet that need, do it.
26. Give, give, give.
27. Laughter is not only the best medicine, it’s the heartbeat of my life.
28. Not everyone is going to believe the way I do. And, that’s okay. (So, let crazy Facebook comments and otherwise go.)
29. My mom thinks my kids are just has hilarious as I do. I am so thankful I can share my life with her.
30. My dad is the most consistently loyal, forgiving, compassionate, merciful person in the universe. Hands down.
31. I have the best friends in the world. And, the older I get the more I realize how much I need them.
32. I could never leave the ministry.
33. I love being alone with God.
34. I either cry or almost cry every time I worship the One who has made all things so good.
35. Don’t sit alone when you’re down. As hard as it is, call someone. Go be with someone you trust. Just don’t be alone.
36. Whenever you think something good is going to come from telling someone exactly what you think or “finally giving them the what for,” please know, nothing good will EVER come from that. Ever.
37. Don’t close the door to new friendships.
38. It’s none of my business what other people think of me.
39. Try really hard to not yell at your children. They are real souls with real feelings.
40. God is for me. So, all moments have been for me. The good ones and the bad ones. Because, God has been IN all of those moments.
If you’re still reading, thank you for indulging me in such a long post. And, thanks to all of you for being in my world. I am so thankful for my friends and family. I am so thankful to serve a God who is full of love. And, I am so thankful to enter my forties. I think I’m going to like it here.