I sometimes wonder how many problems we could avoid in life if we all had accountability partners, and we shared our deepest thoughts with that partner. Good.Bad.And.Ugly.
What is accountability? Merrian-Webster defines it as “an obligation or willingness to accept responsibility or to account for one’s actions.”
An accountability partner is someone you share your struggles or thoughts with and answer to that person. That person is a safe place who brings to the table trust and support. And, every word spoken to him or her is held in confidence.
One of my accountability partners is my mother. Now, I understand that for many of you, telling your momma every single thing is unimaginable. So, don’t. Pick another person who loves you and who loves Jesus. But, I tell my mom every thought that she needs to hear as my accountability partner. I do not reveal things to her that Kris and I share in confidence with one another. But, if I’m struggling with something or a SIN (GASP), I tell her. And, she holds me accountable.
It’s probably saved me from a world of hurt many times. I’ve confessed some brow raising thoughts. She didn’t judge. She didn’t gasp (except once when I was 18 years old, and I shared just a wee bit too much information for her at that time.) Now, that’s a story I could never blog about. For real.
She listens. She prays. And, she helps me put things into a Godly perspective, then holds me accountable. ‘Cause that’s what an accountability partner does.
These friendships, however, are more than just a confession session. I believe pure, authentic accountability fans the flames of our passion for Christ. It becomes a catalyst for spiritual growth.
And, if you are thinking there is no one you know who could be your safe place, pray. If you’d like, tell me. I’ll pray with you that God sends that safe place to you.
If we all learned the value in accountability, I think this world would look much, much different. Seekers would run to the church, because they see authenticity and refuge.
Let us think of ways to motivate one another to acts of love and good works. Hebrews 10:2
What do you think? Do you have an accountability partner?