As far as I’m concerned.

Did you love B Shaw Brittany Thoms or what?  I’m telling you folks.  She is a gem.  I can’t wait to meet her sweet baby Carson next month.  No doubt that baby’s first word will be “Go”, and his second word will be “Dawgs”. 

I told you on Monday one of the two statements that stayed with me since my Willow Creek experience.  I thought it only appropriate to share the other.

By Nancy Beach, of course.  Sure.  You love Bill.  I love Nancy. 

Nancy said that we should strive to always be able to say, “As far as I’m concerned, I am at peace with everyone.”

This means we’ve done all we can do to make a situation right.  To forgive and be forgiven.  What if the other person is resistant to walking out forgiveness with you?  What if he or she is allowing bitterness and resentment to take root?

If you have humbled yourself and tried to make peace with that person, then all you can do is rest in your effort to make it right. 

It’s hard to be the best you or the best me when we have unforgiveness in our hearts.  Or when there is just uncomfortable tension between you and a friend.  I’ve been there before.  I’ve hurt and, I’ve been hurt.  And, trying to do life with those hurts robs us of perfect peace.  Nothing was so freeing as making those relationships right. 

You can’t make someone forgive you.  You can’t make another individual nail their bitterness to the cross.  But, as far as YOU are concerned, you can be at peace with everyone.  It doesn’t mean the other person’s unforgiveness doesn’t hurt.  I’m afraid it often does.  But, it doesn’t have to rob you of peace.  My mom always tells me that “peace of mind is worth its weight in gold.”  She is so right.

Do all that you can to live in peace with everyone.  Romans 12:18

Is there a relationship you need to make right?
Have you ever experienced the hurt of unforgiveness?


Filed under Relationships

3 responses to “As far as I’m concerned.

  1. Judy

    Being in ministry I am afraid I have experienced the hurt from the unforgiveness of others toward us many times, it is very difficult to live up to the expectations of people,very….and disappointing the people you care for is hurtful also so it is a double whamy…they are disappointed and unforgiving toward you….it does hurt…I believe that forgiving is the closest we come to having the very character of God….

  2. “the closest we come to having the very character of God”. Wow. That is GOOD.

  3. I recently did my part to make a relationship right that really didn’t have anything to do with me. But, in a round about way, it did. It was okay. The meeting was civil. But, I am pretty certain that the friendship will not continue.

    It’s unfortunate, but I did my part.

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