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Next Year, I Might Say, “Be Mine.”

Can I just be honest and say that Valentine’s Day is my least favorite holiday of the year?  I don’t mean to be a love humbug.  I mean, I love love and all.  I just don’t like using it to celebrate Kris.  And, he is not allowed to buy me a Valentine’s Day gift.  I know this makes me odd.  And, I’m okay with that.  I’m sure Kris is, too.  Not to worry about my littles.  We certainly lavish on them on this day of “Be My Valentine.”

So, instead of making the day about recognizing how much I love Kris, I pick a person really needing to feel some love to bless.  I started this tradition two years ago.  It’s kind of given me a reason to look forward to the holiday.

However, yesterday ended up being one of my favorite days of the year.  No expensive gifts.  No over-priced roses.  But, a string of texts, notes, and unexpected surprises made me so thankful for the relationships in my life.  Several members of Eagles Way Church surprised the staff with the most heartfelt, delicious lunch at the office.  Kris surprised me….and I do mean surprised me, by cleaning the house before he took off into the wild blue yonder.  An unexpected text from a friend simply expressing her appreciation broke me.  And, then?  A surprise knock at my door with none other than my father bringing me my favorite hummus and pita bread.

I spent the rest of the evening playing Pictionary on the Xbox with my big kids and laughing at this littlest kid while he saw himself being videoed.

Why do videos start and stop on the most awkward of facial expressions?  Have. Mercy.

Anyway, my heart swelled with an immense gratitude for the people in my life.  A gratitude that I get to wake up every morning to the most incredible beings in my home.  A gratitude that I get to be Kris Takle’s wife.  A gratitude that I get to be a mother.  A gratitude that I get to work at the greatest church on the planet.  A gratitude that I get to be a pastor.

I am so rich.  So rich in relationships.  Rich in love.  Rich in contentment.

So, perhaps, after days like yesterday, I just might become a fan of Cupid.  After all, I am definitely a fan of lunch.  And, a clean house.  And, sweet messages.  And, hummus.  And Eagles Way Church.

And, Kris Takle.

And, these little love bugs.



Filed under giving, gratitude, Kid Stuff, Love, Marriage, Motherhood, Relationships

Marriage And Growing A Person.

This weekend, I used Kris’ Marriott points that he accumulates when he flies to luxurious vacation spots by working so hard for the family.  After I arranged for the kids to spend the weekend with Falon and Janet (our friends and most awesome babysitters), I surprised him with a night downtown the big OKC.  We woke up to the glorious phenomenon known as room service, and then, I sent Kris to an already scheduled massage at the spa.

Sorry, men.  I’m taken. 

I need not gloat that much in my wifely awesomeness.  I realized it had been entirely too long since I did something special for Kris.  I recognized I was becoming disgruntled with me not being the center of his attention.  With me not being catered to or lavished with some fun surprise.  I was focusing on me.  After all, I AM growing a person, right? 

In my discontentedness, I began to evaluate myself as a spouse.  Have I thought beyond myself lately to do anything out of the ordinary for Kris? 

I knew the answer. 

So, I made a choice to step outside myself, my wants, my stuff and do something all about him.  Because, I love him.  I love being married to him.  HE matters.

In serving my husband this way, my discontentment seemed to fade.  Because, I served him.  This is true in most every area of our life.  When we step outside of our stuff and serve something or somebody else, we take our eyes off of that stuff. 

And, we become content – fulfilled – again.

It’s how Jesus Christ lived His life.  He so loved us that HE gave.

It was a great time together.  He makes me laugh.  Really laugh.  When I asked him Saturday night to carry me to bed, he responded this way, despite the look of fear in his eyes:

“Uh, okay.  Just let me stretch a little first.”

Oh, I love that man.


Filed under giving, gratitude, Love, Marriage, pregnancy

Heart Check: I Want That, Too!

I am a blessed girl.  I don’t struggle with envy.  I don’t covet my neighbors’ material goods.  Because, I really have this understanding of God’s goodness in my own life.

Or do I?

Pastor Craig Groeschel of Lifechurch.tv shared this past weekend on how to be dissatisfied.  I am pretty satisfied most days.  But when he suggested that comparing what I have to people who have more is a step that leads to living a dissatisfied life? 

I had a heart check.

To be honest.  I mean really honest.

I have a nice home.  But, I can go to an even nicer home and think, “Wow!  I want one of these!”  Then, I go back to my “shack” and fail to recognize my blessings. 

Granted, I don’t live in a shack.  But, that’s the attitude that can penetrate my heart. 

I never resent God’s goodness and blessings in others’ lives.  At least, I’ve got that goin’ for me.  But when I want more, I ignore God’s goodness in my own life.  And, what is holy about that?

We left that Saturday service and I confessed my conviction to Kris.  An issue I didn’t even realize was there.  I then told him, “Babe, my love doesn’t cost a thing.”

“Really?” He said with a little sheepish grin. 

I laughed.  He lightened my mood.  However, the reality of my heart check remained. 


I am so much farther from “considering everything a loss compared to the surpassing greatness of knowing Christ…..”  I am so far from “considering them rubbish….” (Philippians 3:7-8)  So, I’m letting God deal with it. 

Do you ever compare what you have to people who have more?


Filed under God Stuff, gratitude, Virtue

Content with a rock.

You know those people who are just plain difficult to buy gifts for?  I’m married to one of them.  It’s not because he’s fastidious or difficult to please.  It’s just that he is always content with what he has.  I’ll address the issue of contentment momentarily.

So, after racking my brain on the perfect Father’s Day gift for my easily satisfied husband, I had an epiphany.  Well, not really an epiphany – but a grand idea, nonetheless.  I acquired this photo of my super sexy husband landing in Las Vegas:

and, had it framed, at Hobby Lobby no less.  I must say, that I was pleasantly surprised at how efficient and economical Hobby Lobby was on framing the photograph.  I didn’t break the bank, so everyone was happy.

You may be wondering, who in the heck took this incredibly amazing photo of my super sexy husband touching down in sin city?  If you visit www.airliners.net, you’ll see a whole host of photographs that some aviation photographer junkies post.  And, we found this one.  It’s entirely cool. 

Now, just when I thought I had the most impressive of gifts, John Henry shows up with this gift for Kris:

How did John Henry know that Kris would love a rock with hair?  It’s like he completely read his mind.

Of course, we all treasure the little gifts our children make us.  But Kris couldn’t have been more pleased with this piece of earth accessorized by colorful threads.  It’s the kind of stuff he digs.

I think we all too often become consumed with stuff.  We don’t have enough.  We have too much.  We constantly want more.  Sometimes, it’s nice to just sit back and be happy with what I already have – both materially and otherwise.  Why do some of us struggle with a soft word like contentment?  Even when God has blessed us with more than we need?  I will not argue that I like nice things nor do I see wrong in having them – and having much.  But I think there is truth in that money and possessions can complicate life at times.  Not only do I live in a home, I live in a nice home.  The United Nations reported that there are 100 million people in the world who are homeless.  I drive a dependable car.  I never miss a meal.  How can I not be content?

My prayer for today is that I learn to always be content with what God has already given me.  That I don’t trust in my stuff, but in the One who provides it.  I want to be able say as in Philippians 4:11, Not that I was ever in need, for I have learned to be content with whatever I have.

What helps you when you are struggling with contentment?


Filed under gratitude