Love and Marriage.


Kris and I recently had one of those sit down, let’s talk about our relationship talks.  No need to go tellin’ tales out of school.  We are doing just fine.  We’ve just let a few of those important marital-like things fall to the bottom of the list.  And, no.  I’m not talking ‘bout sex.  I am talking about those moments where you shut down computers, cell phones, and children and just enjoy each other.  You know.  Connect. 

It’s so easy to let life go by and time pass in a marriage and not have conversations with your spouse that make you pull in the reins, breathe deep, and take care of the things that really matter.  Each other. 

Monday night, we had a little date night.  We ate sushi and didn’t even talk about airplanes or children or if my jeans made my hiney look big.  ‘Cause y’all know he is going to mess that one up, albeit unintentional.  Then, we laughed together through Four Christmases. 

It’s funny.  That little conversation gave our marriage a lift.  We immediately returned to taking the time to connect.  Kris is good with those conversations.  He is just as comfortable sharing his heart with me as he is in a cockpit.  I love that about him.  He takes good care of us.

Hmmm.  What’s a good scripture to put here?  Oh, I know.  “He who finds a wife, finds what is good,” (Proverbs 18:22.)  Tee-hee.  I’m just funnin’.  Okay, not really.  But, let’s make this fair.

Oh, never mind, I can’t find a scripture I like.  Wait.  That didn’t come out right. 

I’ll just end the way my daddy has concluded every wedding ceremony for the past thirty plus years.

 “Let not your voices lose the tender tones of affection, nor your eyes forget the tender ray with which they shown in courtship’s day.  And, greatest of all, let God be enthroned above all else at all times.”

What do you and your spouse do to connect? 

* Keep it clean.  This is a family blog.  Most days.


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11 responses to “Love and Marriage.

  1. Oh, I love you, Dusty T.

    First off, the pic is gorgeous. And for the record, I think your hiney is tiny. I’m just sayin’.

    Seems like you and I were sort of on the same wavelength this morning with our posts.

    The hubby and I connect by sitting outside on the back porch in the morning before he goes to work and when he gets home. Except when it’s cold. When it’s cold, we “turn on the fireplace” and connect while visiting on the sofa.

  2. Lindsey

    WOW! That has to be the most beautiful picture I have ever seen! Love it! Dusty, you and Kris have a relationship most people long for! Happy for ya! We are both lucky to have such sweet and sensitive guys! Must be a Takle thing! And yes, they love to express their feelings! That’s what I love! It’s so wonderful to have a marriage where you can connect and share your feelings so easily. Can’t wait to see you guys! Love ya!

  3. Cindy & Lindsey, I have to give a shout out to Corey Penry at for that photo. I puffy heart her.

    That whole sensitive thing is a Takle trait indeed. I think they are keepers 🙂

  4. Judy

    I love the blouse lol (I had to say that) and I have always loved the girl wearing it and am happy your broken road led you to Kris….An open heart is hard to come by…you are a blessed woman, GIRRRL….and if you get to worrying about your bottom just sing the song from Shrek and be happy!!!!

  5. If your photographer can make ME look like that, I’ll pay w.h.a.t.e.v.a.h. Pretty, girl. Pretty.

    I like long road trips when the kids are bucked in the back seat and I can’t hear the bickering. We talk about nothing and solve the world’s problems.

  6. Brenda

    You and Kris have been such a big inspiration to me and my whole family. Keep up the good work! Don’t let “Life” or the kids or anything or anyone else ever cause you two to let each other “fall to the bottom of the list”. Keep your priorities in check: God first, Kris second, the kids third, and everyone and thing else after that and you two will continue to be Great!

  7. Judy

    And ….I love the part of the vows when your Dad says to the woman that she was not taken from man’s head to be over him or from his feet to be under him but from his side to be beside him….or something like that…the original “dynamic duo”……

  8. manymeadows

    Oooo…GREAT pic! Shows your great personality!

    Loved this post. Keep it up….it’s FUN work! 🙂

    Dirk and I head off on the motorcycle together. Makes us feel like teens again 🙂

  9. Des

    “He is just as comfortable sharing his heart with me as he is in a cockpit.”

    Ok, I’ve got a question for the ladies out there. I heard this on Dr. Laura and found it somewhat true in my own experience.

    Is it ok for your man to share his feelings if they are negative?

    If he says stuff like; I’m really bummed right now or I’m upset about such and such; is a woman’s heart open to hear him even is he isn’t spouting Song of Solomon stuff out at you?

    If you listen to these call in shows, women always want to hear what’s going on inside their men; except when when bad stuff comes out.

    Just doing some research; thanks!

  10. This is such a cool post! We live with my Father In Law. We take care of him and then we have our Teenage Monsters that use to be the cutest kids. Craig and I connect at lunch everyday. Half the time it feels like it is us against them so this it has strengthed our marriage. We also have Saturday date morning. Craig and I have dealt with so many different things in our marriage I can truly say that he is my best friend. He is the first person that I want to call when I have something good or bad to tell. He shows me eveyday how much he loves me. I am really really blessed

  11. Darlene Jones Cato

    Hey Dusty,
    It’s been a while since I’ve seen you. You’ve really turned into a beautiful young woman. You remind me alot of your mama. Someone special from our past sent me your web address and I love what I’ve read so far. I’ll be sure to keep it in my favorites and come back to it as often as possible. It makes me smile to know that you are happy. I know that God has blessed you and will continue blessing you everyday.
    As far as the marriage thingy, it’s hard to find time for each other, but it’s so important that you do. My husband and I try to spend as much time together as possible. I’ll sit beside him on the sofa sometimes on a Saturday when he’s watching good ole football and it makes me feel young again. I’m very blessed with a wonderful husband and 2 beautiful daughters, 6 & 15 and I thank God for them everyday.

    Take care and God Bless.

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