When Nagging Doesn’t Work…And, It Never Does.

Yesterday, my good friend, Cindy Beall, posted “Shut Up And Pray” revealing the power of praying for your spouse…..versus the not so easily received nagging by your spouse.  It was good stuff.

There are times when issues need to be discussed.  And, a long time ago, I posted “Conversations That Work,” a few lessons I’ve learned in how to communicate with my spouse. 

But, not all issues really need to be confronted.  Because, sometimes, those issues are our issues….not theirs.  So, when we address “our stuff” with our spouse, it will usually come out in the form of nagging.  I don’t always zip it, lock it, and put it in my pocket like I should.  But, I really try. 

One evening, a couple of weeks ago, I was just frustrated with Kris.  (He doesn’t even know it….except, now he does, IF HE READS MY BLOG TODAY.  Not bitter.)  I made the very difficult decision of not saying a word.  I went to bed….


I didn’t even pray, “Lord, show him he needs to do this or that.”  Instead, I prayed blessings over his life.  I prayed that God would bless him in everything he does and touches.  That He would give him peace wherever there is no peace.  That any stress in his life that wasn’t from God, He would gently remove from his life.

Blessings.  That’s what I prayed.

The next morning, I woke up to a different man.  Or, perhaps, I woke up to a different me?  I had a brand new perspective and an even greater love for Kris. 

Our words are powerful.  Our prayers make a difference in BOTH of our lives. 

Bless your husband by praying for him.  It works much better than nagging.  I promise.

She brings him good, not harm, all the days of her life.  Proverbs 31:12


Filed under Marriage, prayer, Relationships

4 responses to “When Nagging Doesn’t Work…And, It Never Does.

  1. Aaaannnndddd the student becomes the teacher.

    You are smart, DT. Even if you did laugh at me yesterday over a text message.

    Yes, that still counts.

    • Dusty Takle

      Ahaha. I only laughed whenever I thought about it. Of course, I did picture it in my head a few times.

      And, you’re a good teacher, CB.

  2. Gailynn

    Love the post Dusty. I must also say that I have really enjoyed getting to know you through your blog.

    Also, years ago when I was a young wife I was given a small piece of advice that works even today after almost 28 years of marriage. On those “issues” that don’t necessarily require conversation, when you pray for your husband, pray for God to make you the Wife you need to be so your husband can be the man God wants and needs him to be.

    I must say, it changed my marriage. Forever.

  3. Melanie

    What an awesome word for the day!!! You are truly inspiring, and I’m so thankful God uses you to bless us all! : )

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