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‘Tis the Season.

I experience different seasons of life just like you.  Some are easier than others.  Some do not end quickly enough.  Then there are seasons where I hardly stop to notice the season.  Know what I mean? 

I’m noticing this one.  But, not the things one would expect for me to notice. 

It’s not hard.  It’s not easy.  Financially?  I’ve seen more.  I’ve seen less.  I don’t notice a real difference in myself as a mother (unless I look at my protruding abdomen.)    I’m sure my children have grown a tenth of an inch this past month.  I can’t really tell until their jeans hit above their ankles.  Kris still makes me laugh out loud just like he does in every other season. 

What I am noticing this season is a greater intimacy in my relationship with my heavenly Father.  I know He’s always tender.  He’s always gentle.  But, I’m especially noticing a sweet calm – a peace – that can only come from Him.  I think about Him when I take my kids to school and on my drive back home.  I think about how good He is when I serve my husband.  I think about how a perfect son of God was born in the most humblest of circumstances. 

I think about Him.

All the time.

And, my heart overflows.

I am in love.




With Jesus.

I love this season.


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The Three Parts of Marriage (3 of 3)

Last but certainly not least is the physical part of marriage.  Let’s talk about sex.  You can exit out of this blog now, if I’ve already made you uncomfortable.  I won’t be offended.  As a matter of fact, I’ll never know.  But, if you can handle Song of Solomon, this is a walk in the park.

1 Corinthians 7:5 says Do not deprive each other of sexual relations, unless you both agree to refrain from sexual intimacy for a limited time so you can give yourselves more completely to prayer. Afterward, you should come together again so that Satan won’t be able to tempt you because of your lack of self-control.

I believe each couple should decide what works best for them in regards to sex – at least the how often part.  I will be candid with you.  I have probably turned Kris down five times in five years of marriage.  This is what I have found:    There are rare times that sex is kind of like exercise.  I didn’t feel like doing it, but once I did, I was glad I did.  But more times than not, I want to share this greatest form of intimacy with my husband.  And as for the 1 Corinthians scripture that mandates us to not deprive our spouse unless we are giving ourselves to prayer?  Well, Kris would rather fast food than sex.  But that’s just him.

If you are a parent to young children, you know the obstacles you have to overcome to make sex happen while your children are at play.  We usually tell our kids that mommy and daddy are going to talk, and then we lock the door.  Our sneaky little MacGyver – you know which one I’m talkin’ about – has figured out that our car keys will unlock the door.  So, what now?  Hide the keys.

A big no-no in our bedroom is porn of any kind.  This is probably best left for an entirely different post.  But for us, we want our physical connection to be between the two of us – and no one else. 

On a deeper level, physical intimacy is the unveiling of yourself to make yourself more vulnerable in a trusting and loving relationship.  It creates a sense of unity.  In it, you approve each other’s need to be a sexual being.

There is much more I could write on the physical part of marriage – from all of the aspects of intimacy, including obstacles to achieving it.  But for the sake of time (and a really long post), I’ll leave it at that.  And one thing to always remember, we cannot expect perfection in our spouse when we ourselves are imperfect.

One of the best books I’ve read on intimacy is Intimacy: A 100-Day Guide to Lasting Relationships by Douglas Weiss.  If you haven’t read it, pick it up.  It’s worth the read.  And, it covers all three parts of marriage.

What are your thoughts?  Any other book recommendations? 


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