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Big Mama Says We Talk Too Much.

Yesterday afternoon, I found myself in my kitchen singing the words to “You Are Good.”  These lyrics rang through my head until nighttime:

Your kindness leads me to repentance
Your goodness draws me to Your side
Your mercy calls me to be like You
Your favor is my delight
Every day, I’ll awaken my praise
And pour out a song from my heart.

Romans 2:4 says, “Don’t you see how wonderfully kind, tolerant, and patient God is with you?  Does this mean nothing to you?  Can’t you see that his kindness is intended to turn you from your sin?”

It’s His kindness that leads us to repentance.  It’s His goodness that draws us.

My translation:  Stop judging and be so dang intolerant of other people.  God uses kindness, sweet words, and forgiveness to transform our own lives into something beautiful.

When people disappoint us….

When people don’t live up to our expectations….

Fill in the gap of your expectation of someone and what that someone actually does with kindness and forgiveness.

Even with your spouse.

Give him or her the benefit of the doubt.  When has expressing your disappointment with your spouse EVER worked?  There is a definite time and place for healthy communication.  Healthy.  There is also a time to keep your mouth shut.

I remember being aggravated with Kris once for not taking care of something before he left for a trip.  I was so stinking mad.  I picked up the phone to call him and tell him exactly how I felt about his oversight.

Fortunately for Kris, Big Mama was at my house.

“Talk, talk, talk. That’s the trouble with young people.  They think they need to talk everything out.  Sometimes, you just need to keep your mouth shut.  Put the phone down, and just forgive him.”

I’m pretty sure filling in the gap with forgiveness and a closed mouth did more for my marriage than that phone call would’ve done.

Trying to bring conviction to someone’s life never goes the way we think it will.  But kindness will always bring about effectual change.   And often times, our kindness towards others changes US.

It’s how God functions.   And, since we are of God….created in His image….isn’t it how we should function?

I am so thankful for His patience.  For His love.  For His mercy.

And, so thankful that His mercy calls us to be like Him.  Because, His ways are truly better.


Filed under Big Mama, disappointment, God Stuff, Marriage, Relationships

Put Yo Coat On!

I’m reading through the book of Colossians this week.  In the following passage, Paul encourages us to “clothe ourselves” in these God qualities:

 12 Since God chose you to be the holy people he loves, you must clothe yourselves with tenderhearted mercy, kindness, humility, gentleness, and patience. 13 Make allowance for each other’s faults, and forgive anyone who offends you. Remember, the Lord forgave you, so you must forgive others. 14 Above all, clothe yourselves with love, which binds us all together in perfect harmony. 15 And let the peace that comes from Christ rule in your hearts. For as members of one body you are called to live in peace. And always be thankful.  16 Let the message about Christ, in all its richness, fill your lives. Teach and counsel each other with all the wisdom he gives. Sing psalms and hymns and spiritual songs to God with thankful hearts.  17 And whatever you do or say, do it as a representative of the Lord Jesus, giving thanks through him to God the Father.  Colossians 3:12-17

If you leave your house without putting on this coat of mercy, kindness, humility, et cetera, et cetera, you leave your house naked.  (Pronounced “nekked.”) 

Since every member of my little family has appointed himself or herself “The Accountability Authority,” it is impossible to get away with taking off this coat.  So, when we behave or respond in a manner that fails to demonstrate those above God qualities, we simply tell, okay yell, “You bettah put yo coat on!” 

It usually diffuses whatever is causing the nakedness and keeps us accountable to clothe ourselves in these qualities that, let’s face it, make us better people. 

Mercy.  Kindness.  Humility.  Gentleness.  Patience.  Forgiveness.  Love.  Peace.  These really make life better and so much easier. 

So, before you go out around people today, put yo coat on!


Filed under God Stuff, Love, Relationships, Spiritual Journey

The Kindness of A Father.

We’ve been studying/discussing the fruit of the Spirit in my most awesome Bible Study.  Today, I think we all wept over this one:  Kindness. 

Specifically – the kindness of our Heavenly Father.  I may share more on this later.  But, one quote by Beth Moore grabbed my attention in a big way:

“We will never be successful as parents to our children until we are successful at being children to our Heavenly Father.”

Every single thing we could ever want or need from our earthly father, our Heavenly Father provides.  We want time with our father.  God says “draw near to me, and I’ll draw near to you.”  We long to be special to our father.  God tells us we are “wonderfully and fearfully made.”  We want to know our father will always be there.  God says he will “never leave you nor forsake you.” 

I could go on and on.  He loves us.  His kindness amazes me.  Even though, He may correct or reprove us, His kindness is like no other.  I want that kind of kindness. 

I want that kind of kindness when I parent my own children. 

If I want to learn to be a good mother to my children, I think I need to pay closer attention to how my Heavenly Father loves me.

How do you respond to Christ as your Father?  Do you even know Him as a Father?


Filed under God Stuff, Motherhood, parenting

Proud Parenting Moments.

Some smart philosopher once said,

“Be kind, for everyone you meet is fighting a battle.”

Of all the lessons we teach our children, this is probably numero uno.  How we treat people comes up in conversation, in some shape or form, every day with my children {and usually between two siblings}.  I try to share Jesus with them, and how He walked out a life of being kind. 

As soon as John Henry got into the car the other day, he said, “Mom, there were some kids being mean to Hunter today.  So, I went and played with him.” 

Oh, how my heart leaped.  I could not have been more proud of my son.  I can’t imagine how our heavenly Father’s heart leaps every time we are kind to one of His children. 

It’s even greater than reading sight words in record time.

Later that evening, I told John Henry again how proud I was of him. 

“God is a good friend,” he responded.

I think he’s getting it. 

And, motherhood doesn’t get much better than that.

Share a moment when you were proud of your child being kind…..or just doing the right thing.


Filed under Motherhood, parenting

One act of random kindness.

I watched Evan Almighty again a couple of weekends ago.  You know, you know – I think Steve Carell is fabulous.  Blah, blah, blah.  Remember how I said I would probably always promote Carell movies?  I wasn’t lyin’.  Not only is he a brilliant actor, he has this touchable quality about him.  I think he really does put his pants on one leg at a time just like the rest of us.  Unlike the Brad Pitts of the world.  No doubt, he doesn’t. 

In the movie, Morgan Freeman, who plays the Almighty himself, appears to Evan (Carell), telling him that the way to change the world is by doing one Act of Random Kindness (“ARK”) at a time; the film’s central message.

When I look at the vast poverty that exists in our local community and around the world, it can be overwhelming.  So overwhelming that I sometimes think that unless I can eliminate the entire epidemic in one fail swoop, doing what I can is useless. 

The key is to not close our eyes and deem it overwhelming.  Then, we become blind to even help just the one…..then the two….and so on and so forth. 

God has called you and I to be hope, to be refuge and bring healing to a hurting society – one at a time. 

But, so often we ignore cries for help.  We look at the mass destruction of a Katrina and become….overwhelmed.  We get too busy with our own Christmas lists that we overlook the children on the Salvation Army’s radar who will go without. 

That’s why the story of the widow’s mite is so touching.  The Pharisees mocked her giving – one mite.  But Jesus explained, “This poor widow has put more into the treasury than all the others.  They all gave out of their wealth; but she, out of her poverty, put in everything -all she had to live on.”  Mark 12:43-44

Want to change the world?  Want to live beyond yourself?  We can.  One act of random kindness at a time. 

“Since you cannot do good to all, you are to pay special attention to those who, by the accidents of time, or place, or circumstances, are brought into closer connection with you.”   – St. Augustine of Hippo


Filed under giving, making an impact