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I would have posted yesterday, but I didn’t.  I figured most of you were too consumed with sledding and hot chocolate to read some post.  As for me, nothing edible was safe in my house.  I did, however, cut my 3 Oreos with my coffee down to 2 today.  Because, I do make good choices some days.  And, being trapped inside a house with little people will really make you tune into the choices your children are making. 

I have a chalkboard hanging in the hallway in our home.  I periodically put scriptures on it, and teach them to my children.  A few days ago, Anna reminded me to change the scripture, since she was very aware that in the city of David, a Savior had already born.  So, I thought this one appropriate:

“Honor your father and mother. Then you will live a long, full life in the land the Lord your God is giving you.”  Exodus 20:12

“What does honor mean?”  Anna asked.

“It’s to treat someone with value,” I explained to her. 

My cousin was gracious to allow both John Henry and Anna spend Sunday afternoon with his little boy.  After hearing him respond to his dad with a little attitude, Anna told him what the Bible says about honoring your mother and father.  Then, she followed it up with, “if you wanna live a long life…”

Had I known Anna would take this to heart as much as she has, I would have posted that scripture a very long time ago. 

Later, Anna asked, “Will you really live a long life if you honor your parents?”

Fair question.  Especially, considering the fact that many young have left us early.  Some biblical scholars feel the promise of long life here is referring to that particular nation inhabiting that land for many days as opposed to life span.  So, I explained to Anna that this means her life would be much happier.  She would be much more content.  And, often times, a happy life affects the length of someone’s life.  It certainly affects a full life.

Yesterday, when Anna asked me what I was waiting for when she requested more Sprite, I quickly reminded her of honor.  Her dad quickly took away her privilege of getting more.  And, she quickly learned that her life, at that moment, was not full.

I think it will be a while before I erase that chalkboard.


Filed under Kid Stuff, Motherhood, parenting, Virtue

She Will As Soon As She Finishes Her Puzzle.

Had I typed a single word last night, it would have simply been “nauseated.”  Just as I was beginning to get over this ugly, ugly word, it resurfaced like that bitter, old aunt who won’t go back home fast enough.  I attempt to remind myself that of the miracle growing inside of me.  But, instead, I glare at my husband, because this is clearly his fault. 

I wake up this morning, and eat a piece of toast with raspberry preserves and drink a little caffeine free coke.  I feel better.  For now.  So, perhaps, now I can write something that won’t sound so, well, bitter?  Yes.

Here is our latest issue in parenting.  It concerns our funny and determined four year old.  Surprised?  I didn’t think so.  Anna has a reason for everything.  EVERYTHING.  You can also ask her to do something, and she has her very own way of getting to the task.  For example, Kris asked her to go put her shoes on.  She first puts on her skate, because she plans to skate to her room to where her shoes are. 

I got this.

Kris didn’t.

She had a talkin’ to.

I privately explained to Kris that her intent was to skate to her room, then she’d obey his instruction.  Kris explained to me that she should obey right away without excuse or delay.

I tend to agree.  But, it sure is hard, because really?  She has some pretty valid explanations.  I mean, wouldn’t you rather skate to your room than walk like normal people?  So, Kris, er, we, have been cracking down on her delayed obedience.  He’s right in doing so.  I just get her. 

Perhaps, I see myself in her little four-year old body? 

But still.  Delayed obedience really isn’t obedience is it?  Parenting is tough.  Especially when those funny girls are just so dang cute.

You can relate, yes?


Filed under parenting


This past Sunday I heard Pastor Bill Hybels, via video broadcast, share on what to do with whispers from God.  He gave us many examples of whispers from God in His own life.  And, if you look at Pastor Hybels’ life, there is no question that he has heeded most, if not all, of those whispers.

I can recall many whispers in my own life.  I’ve answered many and ignored a few.  But, oh the difference our life makes when we not only listen to the voice of God but do something with it.  Quite simply put, obey.

I remember whispers as a little girl.  But none strike me more than a whisper in my freshman year of college.  It was usually during my drives to school that the Holy Spirit and I would converse.  I’d talk to Him.  He’d listen and probably try to tug back.  Those were sweet moments in my young life. 

During this same time I watched an old video of Kathryn Kuhlman who began an incredible ministry when she was sixteen.  As a matter of fact, my parents re-dedicated their lives to Christ in a Kathryn Kuhlman meeting back in the early seventies.  What attracted me most to Kathryn was her anointing.  You knew it wasn’t just her when she walked out to minister to others.  But, she was truly a vessel being used by an Almighty Father.

On one of my drives after watching this old video, the Holy Spirit met me in my car again.  “I’m calling you just like I called Kathryn Kuhlman.”  I’m pretty sure I wept the entire drive to school and had a hard time shaking that moment – that whisper – for many days after.  Now, I’m not so foolish to think that God was telling me that I would have the same impact as a Kathryn.  But, I knew that He was calling me to me live a life that was beyond myself.  To live a life that brought glory to Him.

My journey since that moment has been unpredictable, as life often is.  I still do not feel that I have begun to do all He has set before me to do.  But, I do feel that it is my responsibility to answer those whispers along the way.  When He tells me to give to an individual.  To call someone.  To serve a friend or stranger.  To write a post for this blog.

I do not take to a podium like my father.  If I ever hear that whisper, I will.  But for now, this is my podium.  Silliness and all.  I don’t have all the answers.  As a matter of fact, I have very few.  But, I want you to know that I am here to talk to you, to pray with you.  You can always e-mail me direct at durstee@aol.com. 

In the meantime, listen to His whispers.  He loves you with a love that surpasses all understanding.  And, He wants to tell you something.

My sheep listen to my voice; I know them, and they follow me.  John 10:27


Filed under God Stuff, Spiritual Journey