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Favorites Party – Week Two

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It’s FAVORITES time again.  What a way to get in the holiday spirit.  Since I’m not decorating my house due to impending holiday travel, I’ll ‘tis the season right here in bloggy world.

Today’s FAVORITE topic is FAVORITE gift.  A favorite gift you’ve given or received.    

Now, don’t get me wrong.  I love to give.  But, I sure do get silly excited when I’m the recipient of presents.  Except for that puffy Christmas vest one of my students gave me years ago. 

My favorite gift.  I had a hard time narrowing it down between Dolly Pops, Brooke Shields  Barbie Doll, Snoopy Snow Cone Machine {carpal tunnel hell}, and the Barbie Townhouse.  But in the end, the Barbie Townhouse beat all.

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Do you know how awesome that yellow elevator was?  You pulled a string to raise it up and down.  It was seven year old HEAVEN for this little girl.  I loved it.  Thank you mom and dad for making my Christmases so grand.  They were perfect.  Even without the beloved Cabbage Patch Doll J

I’ve actually looked at buying one of these vintage Barbie items on eBay for Anna.  I did manage to acquire a Brooke Shields Barbie Doll for her still in the box on eBay for 99 cents.  I really didn’t get the reaction from Anna that I was looking for on that one.  Can’t imagine why.  Brooke is way cooler than Hannah Montana.

What is a favorite gift you have given or received?

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One act of random kindness.


I watched Evan Almighty again a couple of weekends ago.  You know, you know – I think Steve Carell is fabulous.  Blah, blah, blah.  Remember how I said I would probably always promote Carell movies?  I wasn’t lyin’.  Not only is he a brilliant actor, he has this touchable quality about him.  I think he really does put his pants on one leg at a time just like the rest of us.  Unlike the Brad Pitts of the world.  No doubt, he doesn’t. 

In the movie, Morgan Freeman, who plays the Almighty himself, appears to Evan (Carell), telling him that the way to change the world is by doing one Act of Random Kindness (“ARK”) at a time; the film’s central message.

When I look at the vast poverty that exists in our local community and around the world, it can be overwhelming.  So overwhelming that I sometimes think that unless I can eliminate the entire epidemic in one fail swoop, doing what I can is useless. 

The key is to not close our eyes and deem it overwhelming.  Then, we become blind to even help just the one…..then the two….and so on and so forth. 

God has called you and I to be hope, to be refuge and bring healing to a hurting society – one at a time. 

But, so often we ignore cries for help.  We look at the mass destruction of a Katrina and become….overwhelmed.  We get too busy with our own Christmas lists that we overlook the children on the Salvation Army’s radar who will go without. 

That’s why the story of the widow’s mite is so touching.  The Pharisees mocked her giving – one mite.  But Jesus explained, “This poor widow has put more into the treasury than all the others.  They all gave out of their wealth; but she, out of her poverty, put in everything -all she had to live on.”  Mark 12:43-44

Want to change the world?  Want to live beyond yourself?  We can.  One act of random kindness at a time. 

“Since you cannot do good to all, you are to pay special attention to those who, by the accidents of time, or place, or circumstances, are brought into closer connection with you.”   – St. Augustine of Hippo

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The Tithe (Part 2 of 2).


Let’s play the “what if” game. 

What if I tithed and God never blessed me for it?

What if I tithed and the pastor ran off to the Caribbean with “my” money? 

What if I tithed and nothing good ever happened?

The primary reason that Kris and I tithe is out of obedience.  However, we have experienced personal blessings because of our faithfulness.  Here are a few of examples of how God has blessed our family through the tithe.

Not long after Kris and I married, we lost a major aircraft management contract that put food on our table at the time.  Since people weren’t chomping at the bit to buy airplanes, we depended solely on the management of this aircraft. 

We had just returned from celebrating my mother-in-law’s birthday on a cruise.  We lived it large on the high seas.  I even purchased my 3 month old baby girl a Burberry dress.  It was fabulous.  And, these cost just a wee bit more than those princess nightgowns.  The day we returned from our fun in the sun and frolicsome expenditures, we get the call.  No more contract.

I turned to Kris and said, “That contract is not our source, God is.  We have been faithful givers, and He will not forsake us now.”

He didn’t.  Two weeks later aircraft sales picked up and we made in one sale what that contract provided for one year.  Whew and Amen.

Here is another important point.  Tithing does not make you immune to financial struggles, as stated in yesterday’s post.  A lot of factors contribute to a hurting bank account – the economy, unexpected emergencies or events, frivolous spending, or simply poor money management.  We’ve all been affected by one or all of the above.  But, God will not leave the righteous forsaken or a seed out begging for bread. 

Such was the case a couple of years ago, when a large debt exceeded our bank account.  A couple of the above factors contributed to our lack of preparation.  Kris and I took a deep breath, thanked God for our health, and called on Him.  Money didn’t pour out from the clouds.  But, He began to direct our paths and show us how to make the money to pay our debt.  And, we did.

Now, I could take you way back to growing up in ministry and watching God provide for my family time after time because of the simple act of giving ten percent.  Like the time we used one of those propane gas tanks and it was on empty.  A lack of funds kept the house cold for a couple of days until someone showed up at the door with enough money to fill that tank again….just because, God led them to give it.

Then, there was the time that I was looking for a teaching a job, and I reminded God of my faithfulness in giving (just in case He had forgotten.)  That afternoon, a principal calls and offers me a job.

When I was pregnant with John Henry and single, my budget was, well, itty bitty.  I never stopped tithing.  As a matter of fact, I gave above and beyond the ten percent.  After John Henry was born, another couple felt led to supply diapers for one year!  And, in spite of a modest bank account, we never, ever lacked. 

I’ve asked Kris to give his own personal thoughts on tithing.  Here ya go, from Mr. Takle himself….unedited J

“Tithing establishes and strengthens your faith in God.  Too many people look at tithing as ‘what’s my return on investment or ROI’.  Tithing is not a financial transaction where you are buying something for ‘x’ dollars and getting ‘x’ dollars back.  I believe that tithing strengthens your relationship with God, your relationship with the Church – the community of believers, and your relationship with your family.  It is my goal to always give above and beyond the tithe.  I want my children to always see us blessing the church and others so that they, too, will grow up to be a blessing.”

Our list of personal experiences with being faithful with what belongs to God could go on and on.  We are continually amazed at God’s unfailing mercies and blessings.

Now, could we still be blessed financially and otherwise without tithing?  It’s possible.

But, again, tithing is central to my relationship with God.  And, I’m not willing to risk it.

Do you have any personal experiences where God has blessed you because of the tithe?    

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The Tithe (Part 1 of 2)


Tithe.  For some, it’s a dirty word.  For some, it’s controversial.  For some, it’s irrational.  For some, it’s a principle.   For me, it’s central to my relationship with God.

What is the tithe?  In simple terms, it’s a tenth of one’s increase (Deuteronomy 14:22).

A few of my thoughts on tithing:

  • – It is one-tenth of any increase in our house.
  • – It lays a foundation for God to bless my family.
  • – It honors God.
  • – It is an act of obedience.
  • – It does not make me immune to financial struggles, but it does give me a platform when I appeal to God to meet a need in my life.
  • – For me, not tithing is the equivalent of robbing God.
  • – It’s the first check Kris and I write.
  • – It is not based on “what is the church gonna do with it?” question.  It’s a Kingdom principle.  Scriptures do not give stipulations or exceptions on tithing.  Neither should I.
  • – My heart is where my wallet is.  For my sake, it better be with Him.

I get seriously excited when Kris and I tithe.  We don’t just give “every once in a while.”  We give upon every increase.  We get to tithe. 

Some people argue that they cannot afford to tithe.  I argue that I cannot afford not to.

Tomorrow, I’ll give some personal examples of how God has blessed our family through honoring Him with ten percent.

What are your thoughts?

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Turtle Trapping.


Yesterday morning I woke up, had some coffee, and watched one of those popular morning shows.  One segment was on how many Americans are heading to food banks for the first time due to a deteriorating economy.  I was especially moved by one working, single mother of two children who was really feeling the effects of the current economic climate.  I immediately thought about how blessed I am to still get my food from the local grocer.

I tell Kris, “Let’s go buy groceries for someone struggling today!”

This is the part where you expect to read about the incredible day the Takle family had reaching out to people in need.  You know, feeding the poor, etc.

Kris, who is usually pretty responsive to giving to others, replied, “We’ve got to go check on the turtle trap.”

Do wha? 

You see, Kris loves his family’s farm in Georgia.  And here of late, he’s been ultra concerned about the turtles killing the lake’s bass and brim.  Well, who wouldn’t be?

Some of you are gonna be so jealous how I spent my day…..

First, Kris thought it best to replace the boat’s oars.

I say, why not use the tools from the land?  But Kris bought this handy trolling motor instead.

As it turned out, I was kind of glad he did.  Because, we trolled.

And we trolled.

All the way to check on this little gadget.

This, dear friends, is a turtle trap.  The excitement is just overwhelming.  Kris placed it in the lake the day after we arrived in Georgia.  Since that day, he hasn’t stopped asking, “I wonder how many turtles we’ve trapped!”  I know you are on the edge of your seats right now with suspense.

Much to his dismay, none.  And, much to my relief, I didn’t have to retrieve the little creatures.

Guess, we’ll feed the poor another day.  Or at least, take ‘em fishing.

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Women who have influenced me. (4 of 5)

Kitty Grubbs

My relationship with Kitty began when I was only ten years old.  For the years that followed, I was connected to her as a piano student, a caregiver to her precious children (who are all grown up now), and through praise and worship.  Throughout these connections, we became friends.

Kitty imparted to me one of the greatest gifts I think exists in the world:  the gift of giving.  I can remember her buying me Easter dresses and my first prom dress just because she wanted to bless me.  Her giving continued throughout my adolescent years.  It wasn’t just the dresses or the piano lessons that she gave, but it was the heart and significance behind it.  And, she gave with no expectation.

She doesn’t give because her life has been without heartaches and broken roads.  She has endured more than most.  She gives because she chooses to live no other way.  Kitty understands and lives out that she is “His hands and His feet.”  She takes the call to be like Jesus seriously.  Like we all should.

I could say so much more about Kitty besides her generosity.  Like the fact that she loves and cares for people deeply.  That she seeks Christ for direction and listens….really listens to His voice.  That her dedication to the house of God has been steadfast.   And, how she always put her children first and took the role as a mother as her greatest call. 

Just as Kitty has blessed me, I hope I always bless others.  She gave, and she continues to give.  May we all receive the gift of giving and be more like Him.

But just as you excel in everything…see that you also excel in this grace of giving.  2 Corinthians 8:7

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The greatest gift I never received.


It’s 1983ish, and all I want is the coveted Cabbage Patch Kid.  Remember those outlandish dolls with each one signed by Xavier Roberts….on their hineys no less?  Such a doll was considered a luxury in our house, and on a pastor’s salary, we didn’t buy luxuries.  I’ll never forget the Christmas I asked for the Cabbage Patch Kid.  I woke up in the middle of the night to get a head’s up on what awaited me that morning.  (My mom still displayed my gifts as if from Santa….even after I discovered his non-existence.)  The doll I found was an imposter – a less expensive version of the ridiculously priced doll.  I remember the feeling of disappointment.  However, I also remember going back to bed and mustering up the gusto to still put on a happy and grateful face the next morning.  And, I did.

You see, even at a young age I had an understanding of gratitude.  And, not receiving this gift made me appreciate my parents even more.  They could not provide the Cabbage Patch, but they still made sure I didn’t lack. 

I can’t help but wonder if I am instilling that same sense of gratitude and appreciation in my own children for not only things, but for those who give them.  It’s a hard line.  While Kris and I have the capabilities to provide such luxuries to our children, should we?  Well, sure.  But, how much is too much?  It’s very tough as parents to draw that line.

I am thankful for the opportunities to give to John Henry and Anna.  However, I hope that the gifts they receive go beyond material possessions.  I hope they receive the gift of gratitude, the gift of compassion, the gift of mercy, the gift of faith, the gift of hope, and the gift of love….above all else.

And, to my parents who never knew (until now) of that brief disappointment, thank you.  That Christmas, you gave me more than you know.  For that, I am truly grateful.

So if you sinful people know how to give good gifts to your children, how much more will your heavenly Father give good gifts to those who ask him.  Matthew 7:11

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